July 14, 2016

How to fight the “war on masculinity” PLUS: Does Donald Trump have a “Gorilla Mindset”?

Faith GoldyArchive

Last November, my sister gave birth to a beautiful baby boy. I can’t help but get excited about his future, but I’m worried about it, too.

It’s a bad time to be a boy in North America.

My nephew will enroll in school where he will be greeted with curricula that is skewed toward girls’ strengths. They will teach him that misguided sensitivity is better than masculinity, and encourage him to “share his feelings” as opposed to aggressively achieving his goals.

The media he consumes won’t portray men’s focus on sports and monetary conquest, but push a lifestyle that says it’s OK to air your emotions over and above your achievements. He will enter the working world with other men his age who have grown up in a culture replete with real and fictional males who take this “lifestyle” to unattractive, girly extremes. 

Our world has become desperate for male hero virtues.

But here’s the thing: people learn what you teach them. And society has declared a war on masculinity. So we should hardly be surprised that the results of our war on boys has rendered results that are anything but pretty.

Then the author of Gorilla Mindset, Mike Cernovich, joins me to talk Donald J Trump:

Is he the man the world is so desperate for, and why is his message inspiring the nation?

Plus we've got your week's quote of honour!

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commented 2016-08-01 09:18:25 -0400
Last year my son’s teacher (female) decided to rearrange seating and sat my son in a group with all girls. I don’t know if she was trying to feminize him, but it didn’t work. A couple of the girls would constantly pick on him by bossing him around, even calling him dumb, a liar and saying he won’t make it in life. One of the girls threw his books off the desk and stomped on them. He got aggravated after weeks of torment and put her books on the ground and stomped on them. He got in trouble and not them, until I sent a letter to the school principal. The girls were called down to the office and if they did it again they would have to walk with the principal for a week at recess. Anyone walking with the principal is embarrassing because it means you got in trouble. My 23 year old who is a very good looking guy, when he was in grade eleven was bullied so much by girls that he switched schools to another town for grade twelve just to get away from it. He said that if they weren’t girls he would have punched them in the face.

My eleven year old is worried for the new school year. I encouraged him by telling him that he need not worry, I have his back against the little female, self entitled trolls.
commented 2016-07-25 14:08:58 -0400
The war on masculinity is a long standing one…not new. The last forty years the culture has been chipping away at traditional roles and values. Strong role models, and private or home schooling, and the training of boys by masculine men full of integrity are so important. Those men out there who are trying to hang on to what is right..lease don’t despair. The world is really starving for real men, real heroes.

PS As a bit of a grammar nazi, " men hold the doors, for WE women", should have said US women. From English Language and Usage: "Apply the usual “we vs. us” test: Remove any nouns and adjectives between we/us and the verb, and test."
commented 2016-07-22 19:04:42 -0400
Andrew Stephenson,

I guess my equation was in the Bible belt, U.S.A. but a lady I know there has been very happily married 3 times over 70 years,(through deaths, not divorce) to men she has known all her life…and it just seems that when you and all your family and friends have known both of the people for decades, the rumour mill would protect those involved from SURPRISES, at least.

It seems that surprises are what bring down many marriages…although, I also know of women who were warned not to marry men and still went ahead…in the end, to rue the day they didn’t listen. So perhaps people should immediately stop proceedings when critics appear and put off marriage for at least a year for every criticism…that might give them the time to think things through and discover hidden dangers…who knows? Just thinking out loud…see the smoke and steam?

Marriage is a risk, no matter what the foundation, I believe…a very dangerous risk for all concerned. Singleness is no risk at all. So why any widow(er) would marry a second time is a mystery to me.
commented 2016-07-18 13:48:42 -0400

I suspect divorce rates are not any higher in big cities than small towns. It’s hard to find statistics. Perhaps it’s rather the opposite – the bigger mate pools, less pressure to get married (and subsequently, marriage occurring between more mature individuals) less pressure to stay married, etc … means that the relationships that do form are likely built on much stronger foundations.

Bear in mind that even if divorce rates are lower in rural areas, this may not mean the marriages themselves are stronger, merely that there is social pressure to stay in a bad relationship because of the “shame” of divorce. Again, it’s not clear if this is even the case. The government stopped tracking these statistics.
commented 2016-07-18 11:23:52 -0400
Scott Evolution is a Hoax…I do feel for any parent in the court system…there are horror stories on both sides…and I don’t know what the solution is…especially when people today marry strangers, essentially. The good ol’ days when you knew your spouse because you grew up in the same town made a lot of difference…in small town USA where people have known each other for their whole lives marriages are much more stable because everyone knows everyone….there are no surprises…that is the only insurance against these tales from the dark side. (and online dating is almost a guarantee of disaster).
commented 2016-07-18 11:17:20 -0400
Richard Hautala…Richard, Richard…you are not alone and you are not suffering because you are male…you are a teacher…that is the problem…I know you feel persecuted but that is because teachers are whipping boys and whipping girls for parents…I see it all the time and female teachers are every bit as endangered as you are by threats of lawsuits, etc. In fact I am surprised at the dedication of so many teachers in the face of the warfare they face…you should see the problems for non-unionized teachers in private schools…if you are unionized, you have it good by comparison.

As for the boys, why do parents keep giving them these infernally addictive video ‘games’ to play with and then wonder why they are academic doofusses (sp?) and sports challenged…of course they don’t know how to play real life games…it is all virtual and you can blame the parents who don’t severely limit the use of these destructive toys and who raise them in front of the TV set.

I am, frankly, more concerned that men are becoming too violent and aggressive and can’t see that there will ever be a lack of such men. In fact I see often that women are also becoming more aggressive which is the natural reaction to being raised by violent fathers.
commented 2016-07-18 10:45:52 -0400
Richard H. , I feel for ya. And its worse. they have pro attack dogs to get you if you resist. In my case, they decided to sick a Psychologist on me, who is a known feminist who buries men, literally, men have committed suicide because of this lady. Wow she did a number on me but in Trial one of several, she got hung out to dry but still the Judge says in the end, the kids have been where they have been and they don’t want to change that stability. So, who wins first in a interim interim situation wins. Even after getting a emergency order because my X pushed my Daughter down the stairs and spit in her face and then put her out in the snow in the middle of winter in her sock feet without a coat, and my daughter walked a mile to a friends house, the court still sided with my X cause my X said she was getting help, but wasn’t. If I had done the same I would have been charged and put in jail.

Funny thing, in that one moment, when my daughter didn’t want to go back to her mother, rather than having that fight at my door, I took my kid down to the police station so that my X would have to deal with the police and wow, my X’s true colors came out. I am glad the Police carry guns, It was great to see.
And then I got an emergency order the next day, but after a couple weeks, the courts undid it. And my Daughter was in a position to disobey the courts, and my X was all apologetic etc. Anyways, now my Daughter is Older and my son is Older and while its better, their is still distance, and its not the way it should be. And the kids don’t want to lose the controlling mother either, so they play her game.
My Daughter now works at swish serving chicken etc. And I get a discount, so I go in and see her more, and she is visibly happy to see me knowing I am proud of her. My X keeps track of her, when she comes and goes, so she has to tell my X if after work she is coming to my house, and of course thwarts it. So we sneak moments when the X cant control. My Son now 21 and working as an electrician some times works for me, and we some times do things, but not as much as he is living his life etc.
One interesting thing I noticed years ago. because of it, my son and daughter are very close, and they keep up with each other text each other and my son even gave my daughter his old car the one I helped him get. the unfortunate thing is I guess is that he didn’t discuss it with me, because he has been told not to discuss things with me… so its hard they run their lives to a great degree in the shadows because my X has trained them to do that. So while I was glad, Its also sad, out of my control and input. Its to bad that we have to almost sneak around to do thing without my X’s supervision, but its how it is till my Daughter moves out, and she doesn’t want to alienate my X and stay with me. Stockholm’s I guess.
This is what the court thinks is best, and clearly they are a bunch of morons.
commented 2016-07-18 10:25:54 -0400
Faith, I wish there were more women like you. I mean that sincerely.

As a teacher, I see the “feminization” of boys regularly.

As a male teacher, I can offset that a little thankfully, but I am risking my career every time I do. Eg. a boy will ask me why girls can hit them, but they can’t hit back (obviously someone at home is teaching them right). I can only answer honestly and say that boys must respect girls (and also that they are usually physically weaker, so it is not fair/proper).

Playground rules are made for lawyers, not kids:

no touching during play, no gymnastic moves, no rolling down the hill, no snowball fights, no sliding on ice, no playing on the climbers at recess (unless a teacher is right there, which there never is due to the size of the playground), no pretend guns, no “king of the hill” on snow piles, etc…… SAD – let’s just all stand around and look at each other.

I get kids standing around me at recess. I tell them to go and play, but they have no idea what to do. For my part, what can I even say? “play tag, but don’t touch each other” Of course I look the other way when I can, but really, what a world.

All it would take is one parent to complain I wasn’t doing my job. Already happened: eg. a parent wanted to sue the school because her daughter broke a tooth running up a slide. I was investigated to find out how “close” I was to the slide when it happened and was I watching.

Male teachers are at regular risk for “assault” against students. I’ll just say I was investigated twice in my career by Children’s Services. Once because I touched a girls arm to move her hand away when she was erasing work that the class was trying to copy. Second because a student told another teacher that I had hit them with a workbook. Of course I hadn’t. I may have touched them with it when I picked it up, but if so I was never aware that I had.

I am now on record for two incidents (that amounted to nothing in the end, but the record is still there).

I also try to teach my students to think for themselves. e.g. I show videos on Creation vs. Evolution and we discuss the facts (I teach Grade 4). They are very insightful at that age and many can see truth where adults have already shut off their minds. I bring up bible stories and am sad when I find out more than half have never even heard of Adam and Eve, or Noah or Samson or King David.

At least so far there is no Sharia creep in our school.

Keep up the great work.
commented 2016-07-18 10:06:58 -0400

Wow, deja vu. Everything (except maybe some of the planning – though there was that also) happened to me as well. In 5+ years of court to finalize things, there was ONE judge that briefly sided with me. When my ex told the court I was “traumatizing” my kids be going to see them at school (could not see them anywhere else yet). He said “well, good for him” and shut her and her lawyer down. Sadly, I never got that judge again.
I feel for you.
commented 2016-07-18 09:55:02 -0400
the “war on masculinity” only exists if you are insecure about your own gender identity.

Nothing stopping boys from “aggressively pursuing their goals”. Many still do, and it’s actually a primary reason for the persistence of wage gaps (difference is, that those goals are no longer achievable by purely physical means; now they generally require education and brain power. Changes in the education system reflect this).

. This whole thing is an exercise in misdirected nostalgia.
commented 2016-07-17 22:18:08 -0400
What’s wrong with men and women mixing up characteristics?.. Seems pretty Biblical…not too many women in the Bible fit the mold of “feminine”…a few murderers, radicals and don’t forget Shiprah and Puah who made civil disobedience a way of life, and a woman who threw a millstone over a wall to kill a guy, and a ‘wise’ woman arranging to cut off “Shebas” head (a man) and give it to King David…and leading an army (Deborah). Interestingly there are a few effeminate behaviours among the men too…who play harps and who are afraid to speak up and need another man to take their place…so I think we are being too freaked out about modern men…there are a wide spectrum of both men and women who are strong or weak…in all types of character traits…always have been…in fact Jesus wasn’t all that warrior like either…even insisting on his follower, Peter, to put down his sword and then healing the ear that Peter cut off. “My kingdom is not of this world else would my servants fight.” Yet I would say He is a really good example of a man…
commented 2016-07-15 18:07:48 -0400
You two lay off the video games.
commented 2016-07-15 13:35:58 -0400
Yes, it is a war on white males; now even in the schools. Since we pay over 70% of the bills, (taxes) what would happen to the complainers if we were to stop paying? Society would fall apart.
commented 2016-07-15 09:57:19 -0400
The Wor’s Russian Front.
The real fight is with the courts. There is this quasi world of the court that has a underlying means to an end.
If you argue, which is every divorcing family, the court sees the child at risk of being left in the lurch. The lurch might happen in schooling or at the doctors or with parenting styles, but the Court decides that this cant work, and so they want to pick one of the two parents to be in charge, and dethrone or defrock the other parent. So, you have two vehicles, a GM and a Ford, both new, both with horsepower, both will ability but the court decides that because they compete, one has to be squashed. So one vehicle usually the man goes to the crusher.
The man then having most of the same expenses, a home, kids clothes and dishes and bikes, is called on to leave the kids out of his life except for a short visit, and leave the leadership to the mom, and to pay the mom. Both mortgages and hydro bills are the same, but the man is successfully executed, emasculated its all his fault, he is now dangerous, and argues too much. he should lay down, shut up and just pay.

So you can kiss your normal relationship with your kids goodbye, and everyone will tell you that when they grow up, they will come to you. But when they grow up, they have been indoctrinated by a hateful person, distance themselves from intimacy and don’t know what to think. Those kids are the one scared first, and the Father second all because of the courts and the viciousness of a woman. The guerrilla’s in the world are the women. Most men who have been through it all, know that once a woman decides she wants to leave, she doesn’t. She plans an exit strategy, opens accounts, transfers funds, makes plans, investigates low rental housing or shelter space, works with a lawyer on how to create a successful paper trail and escalate disagreements and get cops involved even if its for nothing. Without you seeing it, you are being alienated by your Spouse, the time you had with the kids gets shifted, they have ball, they have piano lessons, just happening on the days you are free, day care gets set up near the new house you don’t even know about yet. Then the court papers come, All of a sudden you are wrong to have worked to pay the bills, you are ignoring the kids, you all of a sudden are harsh and waste money. Its all your fault, you don’t even do the laundry. How dare you.
Then you have to spend thousands on a lawyer just to see the kids, and the weeks away show that you don’t care even if she made it impossible to see them. She all of a sudden doesn’t feel safe and asks if she can come in the back way to the court and use different stairs.
Why? Cause you will not do everything she asks, because you want to buy a car and she says no and you say yes, you name it. but in the end. the society is milking break ups, Lawyers are vultures, do not want reconciliation, and the courts don’t want fathers. its a one parent society. I have heard so many blind sided stories and have experienced it myself.

Male lives matter.
commented 2016-07-15 08:52:55 -0400
lots of bitching and moaning from the feminazis, but never any solutions. they are one long menstrual cramp.
euthanize the lot !
commented 2016-07-15 03:01:39 -0400
Here is a digusting example of racism against whites in a poem Alberta Distance Learning used as an example in a Social Studies 10-1, Unit 1 lesson curriculum that has made my kids distraught by having to read this garbage:

So one billion live on a dollar a day,
What does that matter to me?
I’m getting richer in every way,
Who cares if others aren’t free?

I shop at Wal-Mart for cheap stuff to buy,
Eat food that comes from slave labour.
I could spend more, but why should I?
A Mexican isn’t my neighbour.

Global warming? That’s hardly
I love my SUV.
The summers are warmer; the oceans
Are rising,
Kyoto is not for me.

The corporate news on the TV shelf,
How can I trust what they say?
I never learned to think for myself-
It’s the American way.

When I hear the word “culture”, I reach for My gun.
We kicked out the native, we’re number One!
Long live mediocrity.

“Globalization”- what does that mean?
To me and my identity?
The world’s unfair, I know it’s obscene;
But it’s got nothing to do with me.

And when the masses rise up, and rise up
They will,
To demand their human rights
I’ll be the one they want to kill
As I hide under the northern lights.

Who am I? I’m white, stupid, and fat.
I’d rather not be connected.
And when the bell rings, and it rings for me-

How can it be unexpected?
commented 2016-07-15 02:02:00 -0400
It is the feminist goal to reshape men into women.
commented 2016-07-14 22:19:13 -0400
Western Males are being deprogrammed, right from their early school days. It is a lot easier to control a Country, if all the Males are just interested in buying straight Cucumbers.
commented 2016-07-14 22:14:01 -0400
Speaking as an MRA and a founding brother of MGTOW who had to hide like a subversive partizan just ten short years ago…..seeing this makes me feel (yeah that"s touchy/feely) …like or movement has arrived.
commented 2016-07-14 22:04:44 -0400
Congrats Faith—- and to your Sister.
You are going to make a great Aunt.
Lucky kid.
commented 2016-07-14 21:50:52 -0400
Faith’s nephew will be playing Ring-Around-the- Rosie with the other boys in school during recess in grade 12.
commented 2016-07-14 21:48:43 -0400
Give it time and your nephew will be just like me…………… An enemy of the state , an old, white, male, veteran.
commented 2016-07-14 21:25:23 -0400
I take one look at Trump’s wife and I know he’s doing all the right things. I look at Queen Sophi (the blues singer) and I know Justin is mistake prone – must be genetic.
commented 2016-07-14 21:21:15 -0400
The fanatical feminist mindset is doomed to lose even if it wins. There’s a rather vicious group of anti-feminists invading the West that feminists are trying hard to ignore. I see the feminist narrative starting to fall apart. It’s not doing a good job of dealing with reality.
commented 2016-07-14 21:11:04 -0400
He will be forced to like the new Ghostbusters movie.