November 21, 2017

Girl Scouts Tell Parents: Don't Force Daughters to Hug Family at Christmas

Rebel Staff

Christmas is right around the corner, and progressives are already trying to suck the fun out of it with a new public service announcement released by the Girl Scouts that calls on parents to not force their daughters to hug relatives over the holidays. 

The reason? It's so the girls don't feel like they "owe" intimacy to people after they get older. Yes, even hugging family members has now been deemed "offensive!"

Here's the full PSA:

Holidays and family get-togethers are a time for yummy food, sweet traditions, funny stories, and lots and lots of love. But they could, without you even realizing it, also be a time when your daughter gets the wrong idea about consent and physical affection.

Have you ever insisted, “Uncle just got here—go give him a big hug!” or “Auntie gave you that nice toy, go give her a kiss,” when you were worried your child might not offer affection on her own? If yes, you might want to reconsider the urge to do that in the future.

Think of it this way, telling your child that she owes someone a hug either just because she hasn’t seen this person in a while or because they gave her a gift can set the stage for her questioning whether she “owes” another person any type of physical affection when they’ve bought her dinner or done something else seemingly nice for her later in life.

“The notion of consent may seem very grown-up and like something that doesn’t pertain to children,” says Girl Scouts’ developmental psychologist Dr. Andrea Bastiani Archibald, “but the lessons girls learn when they’re young about setting physical boundaries and expecting them to be respected last a lifetime, and can influence how she feels about herself and her body as she gets older. Plus, sadly, we know that some adults prey on children, and teaching your daughter about consent early on can help her understand her rights, know when lines are being crossed, and when to go to you for help.”

Give your girl the space to decide when and how she wants to show affection. Of course, many children may naturally want to hug and kiss family members, friends, and neighbors, and that’s lovely—but if your daughter is reticent, don’t force her. Of course, this doesn’t give her license to be rude! There are many other ways to show appreciation, thankfulness, and love that don’t require physical contact. Saying how much she’s missed someone or thank you with a smile, a high-five, or even an air kiss are all ways she can express herself, and it’s important that she knows she gets to choose which feels most comfortable to her.

Oh, for the love of Santa Claus, is there anything that is not policed these days?

If the progressives gets their way, the current generation of children will grow up to be politically correct robots who don't offend anyone, and apparently devoid of understanding healthy displays of affection.

This will in turn convert our country into the "safe space" the left wants it to be. It's ridiculous that someone can be accused of being a "bad parent" simply for telling his or her daughter to go give her Great Aunt Betsy a Christmas hug. 

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commented 2017-11-24 04:32:12 -0500
Yeah… And don’t hug them when they wake up from a bad dream in the middle of the night… That’ll toughen then up….
commented 2017-11-24 02:20:52 -0500
You can’t go wrong by not touching kids.
commented 2017-11-23 11:44:28 -0500
Why would you force a hug? If you’re forcing it, it’s insincere and meaningless anyway.

Instead of getting pretend-offended, let’s ask why forced hugging is even a thing. It’s a bizarre ritual.
commented 2017-11-23 02:22:21 -0500
Most unfortunately, first the Boy Scouts, and now the Girl Guides have been subverted in recent years by an obvious infiltration of their national leadership ranks… It started with the Boy Scouts of America’s national office accepting homosexual leaders… From there on it has been inevitably “downwards”… Once proud moral organizations, that for 10 decades produced presidents and generals, have been subverted…
commented 2017-11-23 02:12:52 -0500
I think Frank Hohimer showed his “true colours” already days ago by trying to deflect from the fact that gay men do indeed “hunt chicken” even during supposedly “one partner marriages”…
commented 2017-11-23 01:36:26 -0500
Frank Hohimer prove he is a pedophile. Accusations do not make him one. Now go support Justin and Wynne who endorsed a REAL PROVEN PEDOPHILE Ben Levin and still push his curriculum. Remember that guy the liberal media ignored and never covered his trial? And the guy they are still ignoring like the REAL JOURNALISTS you speak of LMAO!
commented 2017-11-22 23:21:31 -0500
….I wouldn’t want him (Biden) to run anyway.
commented 2017-11-22 23:19:50 -0500
Tammie Putinski-Zandbelt,

I see you want to play whataboutism.

The difference is that Biden isn’t President and I wouldn’t want him to run away. However Trump IS President and the guy that conservative morons think is going to make America great again and bring back morals.

Yes – by endorsing pedophiles.
commented 2017-11-22 23:00:33 -0500
Let’s not forget the new Girl Scouts are fully accepting of transgender and all the other alphabetically defined ‘girls’ into their organization.
This is only part of the grooming being done to young girls.
commented 2017-11-22 22:33:10 -0500
Creepy Uncle Joe Biden planning to run for President. Video evidence of public physical contact with children which taken as a whole is incredibly disturbing; plus his groping secret service agents ; naval officers; wives and girlfriends of his friends etc… Weinstein level as described by an secret service agent.
commented 2017-11-22 21:55:57 -0500
In other news, Trump endorsed a pedophile.

That’s certainly going to have impact in 2018/2020 with a message that conservatives are fine with pedophiles over a liberal when it comes to elections. The Democrat political ads against Republicans will write themselves, especially if Moore is elected.
commented 2017-11-22 13:15:19 -0500
Good. I’m tired of that hugging trend anyway. A good old-fashion handshake, or a fist bump or any other form of greeting is, in many situations, a lot more appropriate than a phony-affectionate and uncomfortable hug.
commented 2017-11-22 11:20:12 -0500
So the Girl Scouts need a developmental psychologist to develop their policies. Interesting .
commented 2017-11-22 10:04:18 -0500
There is nothing wrong with showing affection at all, it’s a normal human interaction that everyone needs. The Scouts don’t need to send their reminders because it’s really none of their business. They are trying to make people feel abnormal or incestuous for being affectionate. I certainly wouldn’t make my children hug someone who makes them feel uncomfortable. They should send their memo to the schools who are overstepping their positions as teachers, to abusing innocent children with their sex perversion classes, without parental approval or knowledge of the perverts who are sexually grooming them.
commented 2017-11-22 09:28:13 -0500
Years ago I was helping a friend paint her veranda. Her girlfriend (divorced mother) showed up to watch and had brought her daughter. The child took an immediate liking to me; I was the only one treating her as a person and not a thing. I actually spoke with her as I was painting – how horrible.

Long story short: child kept trying to tickle me as I was painting. So I gave her a tickle back. Her mother went insane. Sexually attacking her child! How dare I touch her child. What kind of a sex fiend was I. My friend agreed with her,

I didn’t come back to help with the painting. I stopped bother with that “friend”. The mother, from what I knew of her, trolled bars for men occasionally bringing a stranger into her home with her daughter there.

The Western world had become so anti-male that men may need to wear shock collars to be kept in their place. Its sick and perverse. Meanwhile, perverts such as Levin, formerly of the department of education in Ontario, creates a sex ed program for children that went into action as he was being put in prison for child porn. But that is OK. Nothing to do with grooming children. Yea, right.

Studies have shown that women can be as much sexual predators as men, but women can disguise it as being “motherly” or “caring” of children.

What happens to children who are taught not to show affection with people they like, hug family, be nice to people their parents have as friends? Cold, sullen, unloving and not trusting of anyone? Is this what we want society to become?
commented 2017-11-22 03:47:44 -0500
I agree with the girl scouts on this one. The left wing has redefined unwanted hugs and kisses as sexual assault. So if you don’t touch that girl, then you will not commit sexual assault.
commented 2017-11-22 01:31:19 -0500
They should have been more specific , do not force them to hug your left wing family members or any Dem supporters , they seem to have lots of sex offenders.
commented 2017-11-21 22:42:56 -0500
This is how society makes children’s perception of men as potential sexual predators and pedophiles.
What better way to really screw up these little girls to not trust or want to ever be involved with men.
Better to become a lesbian.
It’s safer.
Now there’s a real agenda.
commented 2017-11-21 22:19:29 -0500
I can’t say I remember any relatives forcing hugs to or from anyone. They hugged or they didnt. These phony issues are non-stop.
commented 2017-11-21 21:40:13 -0500
Psychologist Andrea Archibald appears to be another charlatan. She’s ether lying or she’s plainly stupid. She says, (and I 100% agree with this…), “sadly, we know that some adults prey on children”.

Yes that’s right. But more and more evidence – based on a recent spate of busts in child-sex & child-pornography rings, shows us that the preponderance of child-sex predators are not loving parents and family, they are: child protection workers, social workers, foster parents, police, judiciary, legislators, educators and other persons in positions of power and control of children … like organizations like the Scouts.

Stop demonizing normative families to obfuscate the perverts that work among your own. I recall some kind of adage akin to people living in glass houses shouldn’t throw stones…
commented 2017-11-21 19:30:50 -0500
Pure Marxism. Divide the Family, the State owns them and demands their full allegiance, to the rulers of the State. Family is just coincidental. Comrade Trud the 2nd has spoken.
commented 2017-11-21 18:43:23 -0500
So why are the Girl Scouts sending home memorandums?
I haven’t witnessed any parents forcing their children to hug and/or kiss relatives.
commented 2017-11-21 18:23:58 -0500
I never forced my kids to kiss or hug relatives. All kids are different and it shouldn’t be expected as far as I am concerned. Besides maybe your little daughter really does not want to kiss creepy Uncle Fred or hug smelly old Aunt June. I can’t say I see anything wrong with the concept of not insisting children show affection. It really isn’t for anyone else to decide, even a parent. I don’t think it is respectful to the child to force them.
I think this article is an over reaction. I don’t get the impression the Girl Scouts are suggesting children shouldn’t show affection to relatives, only that maybe it isn’t fair to the kid to push them.
“…but if your daughter is reticent, don’t force her.” What in Sam hell is wrong with that?
commented 2017-11-21 18:06:59 -0500
What a world we live in!!! Joy and happiness are gone. They are being replaced by entitlement, victim-hood, misery and perpetual sadness and anger. Way to go, Leftists. This is the world you wanted, this is the world you made, this is the world you got. How do you like it so far? If you don’t think we’re quite there yet, not to worry, it will get a lot worse.
commented 2017-11-21 18:06:15 -0500
IAIN FOULDS In your comment below it’s like you are describing our beloved (NOT) leader Jihadi Justin Trudeau.
He is always hiding behind Sweet words and very slimy, smarmy smiles, and we all know that he is anti-life, especially non Muslim life, and is anti-family unless it fits in with his brilliant (NOT) idea of being a feminist..
commented 2017-11-21 17:28:08 -0500
… The Left’s agenda is always anti-life and anti-family.
… And they hide behind sweet words and slimy smiles.