July 06, 2015

I'll photograph your gay wedding, but please don't be a bully about it

Sean McCormickRebel Blogger

I’m a professional photographer who shoots weddings. Like everyone else who works in the wedding industry, I’ve heard of Aaron and Melissa Klein, the Oregon bakers who caused emotional distress to a lesbian couple by (gasp) refusing to bake them a wedding cake. The Kleins were fined US$135,000. 

Emboldened by the recent U.S. Supreme Court decision on gay marriage, gay activists - or The Gaystapo as I prefer to call them - are now out to stamp out all dissent to gay marriage, religious or otherwise in the Excited States. Coming out against it will cost you. Dearly.

Speaking as a certifiably straight dude who gets paid to attend weddings with my cameras, if a gay couple hired me I would absolutely photograph their engagement pics or wedding because being gay isn't a big deal to me. I would certainly be happy help celebrate their nuptials and to bank their cheque. No problemo! What IS a problem for me is bullying, which is what happened to these bakers down south. I don't see how what happened to them is any different than how jocks treated me back in grade school because I didn't care for hockey (which is very nearly a capital crime here in Canada.)

Going back to the gay wedding thing, if a gay couple told me that while they liked my work, they'd rather hire a gay photographer instead of me because I'm straight, I'd let it go. I don't think it's right to force people outside of their comfort zones. I certainly wouldn't take them to court and force my 'straightness' on them. That's bullying. Didn't like it being done to me. Try not to do it to others (may not always succeed, but that's what I aspire to.)

As I can personally attest from my own childhood, all the bullying and beatings didn’t change my attitude about hockey as a sport. I didn’t suddenly start liking it because I was being pressured to, I hated it even more. It’s all I can do to not pull my daughter from floor hockey at school now that I’m an adult because I hate it that much. I can’t imagine that trying to shove gayness down the throats of those who disapprove of it will be any more successful. In fact, I suspect it will spectacularly backfire.

It definitely has in my case as a moderate Canadian who generally didn’t worry too much about gay marriage until now. The whole notion of enforcing support for gay rights bothers me, and it reduces my support for gay marriage. Not because those involved are gay, but because they are behaving poorly as human beings. Bullying is wrong and I will NOT support that no matter where you fall on the sexual spectrum.

That’s my two cents. I’m sure some will disagree and even call me names. Which is just fine. The occasional heated argument makes for living in a more interesting society, and nothing is more Canadian than buying a cup of cof-fay for the person you were just disagreeing with (so long as it’s not at Tim’s, those bastards.) Unlike The Gaystapo, however, I promise not to sue anyone who hurts my feelings.


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commented 2015-07-07 12:32:00 -0400
It doesn’t matter. Here and in the US, it is not about tolerance. It is about celebration. Every Church, every Christian is demanded to celebrate the right for gays to marry. You better damn well reflect your approval in who you choose to serve, in how you run your business, and how you teach your kids. The Justice Department has the rockets filled with fuel already and they are ready to aim and fire at any faith based organization, including Churches, that dare speak out. (unless of course this is a mosque, in which case, they can threaten to kill gays, straights with impunity as they have always done.)
commented 2015-07-07 00:27:33 -0400
Why is ‘freedom of association’ so hard for some to grasp?
commented 2015-07-06 21:44:04 -0400
True, I have been tolerant of gays all my life, had friends, they did not push their sexual life on me, we where just friends, as it should be, sex had nothing to do with it. But, Yes, I am now getting really anti as this life style is pushed as a good choice, our kids have to be told about it in Grade 4, no freedom of of choice or expression for those not supporting, yes I am beginning to despise the movement.
commented 2015-07-06 21:33:14 -0400
Ah, the voice of a pro.
Bullying just makes you want to get even with the bully. It is a natural reaction.
The place where gay people should be aiming is for there to simply be no issue. The way to get there is not by scaring people into compliance with the full force of the state.
commented 2015-07-06 20:02:55 -0400
I have absolutely nothing against gays & lesbians, in fact I worked with some & know some & they were all very nice people, but don’t shove it in my face like with a gay pride parade. I don’t hear of any parades glorifying heterosexuals & that suits me just fine. As far as refusing to perform a service such as baking a wedding cake for a gay couple is ridiculous. Are gay people refused to be served at a restaurant because of their lifestyle…..or refused to get their teeth looked after…..or refused to check out their groceries, etc, etc ?…..I don’t think so. Just because you are dealing with gays & lesbians does not mean in any way that you agree with them (if that’s what you believe). There are times when refusing a request would be legitimate & right now the one that comes to mind is asking a pastor or a priest to marry them. Some churches would have no problem with that but a priest certainly would & it would be unfair on their part to make such a request. Suing someone because they refuse you is childish…….instead go where you will be welcomed & cross them off your list. That’s my 2 cents worth.